We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ frequently currently of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, and the people to whom we say it.
We are all unique individuals with our personal unique needs and desires; and many of us are united in our quest for the similar thing – to feel Happy New Year 2020 Wishes. Many of us are striving for this particular state of ‘happiness’; nevertheless lots of people are looking in the wrong place for it – and settling to get a temporary mood-enhancer as alcohol, drugs, a new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are now full of ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – the majority of which can be just plain sound judgment! Nobody else is definitely the expert for you! Only you know – or are trying to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is yet another person’s burden.
Should you now think about what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to getting a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as is seen in general society.
Happiness for you will be based upon your very own degree of personal and spiritual awareness, as well as your capacity to create happiness as a state of mind that you can go back to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is far from enough to easily ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself to be happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What many of us don’t realise is that we have now two mind-sets about everything in life, which two minds can be at odds with each other. This conflict can include the levels of happiness we have been ‘allowed’ to experience.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; however, if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t think that we deserve it, or that we would take advantage of it – then it just isn’t likely to come our way. Our outer lives are just ever a reflection of our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies tend not to access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the exact opposite. This is referred to as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – and it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves give away that subsequently affects those around us.
We have now neurons within our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion we are witnessing outside us. For instance if we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we have been instinctively programmed to feel something similar. This connection goes beyond mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of comparable things having happened to us previously. Our company is significantly affected by being around Merry Christmas Messages, whose emotions then we ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by a ‘happy mask’ that someone may be wearing; that will be a false-self they present to everyone being an make an effort to hide their real feelings and needs. This may well have been set up in childhood when it was encouraged and expected which they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for your family’s sake; as well as stuff down their real feelings such as anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – that was real, but ‘unacceptable’ through the family/care-giver.
Many people are so familiar with wearing a mask they cannot imagine an existence without this, or how to get it off! Their eyes will often offer the game away as to their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if someone else is sensitive enough to see these ‘slips’.
We all have a ‘base-line’ degree of happiness at any given stage within our lives – which can be formed from our past experiences and the meaning we gave for them; and naturally the effects these have experienced upon our sub-conscious mind and also the ‘program’ we have been running.
This base-line represents only 40% from the full amount of happiness we are capable of experiencing in the present time. Another 10% can come from the external ‘lucky’ events including the lottery win; or a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic plastic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary so we soon return to our base level yet again.
The great news though is the fact that remaining 40% of happiness accessible to you – hails from YOU! This is scientifically validated and forms a central aspect of Positive Psychology.
You will find 12 methods for facilitating more happiness from your own actions and thoughts, and by the releasing your personal blockages. Many of these ways include finding out how to create a more optimistic and focused approach to life; to maintain your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness into your life. These sound simple however are profound and life-changing. Enhancing your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell within your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and thus your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to a calmness of the mind… observing what is, and never forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; rather than worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To see the Happy New Year Images in each and every tiny moment rather than only focusing in front of the present time; or dwelling in the unchangeable past. The only time you truly have is that this moment and the next breath. Make the most of these whilst you still have them.